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Every couple fights.  I know, I have couples tell me they never fight.  I guess that’s possible, but it’s not probable.  You are probably in denial about the fact that you fight, or that things bother you enough to fight.  Look up denial

There will be conflicts in every relationship.  It’s actually a good thing to fight,  if you make it a good thing.  Good fights can help make for a good relationship.

It’s important that your fights are controlled fights with resolution and a stronger relationship as your goal.  If resolution is what you want to do, then here are ten don’ts that will help make your fights good fights.

I left “don’t get physical” off the list.  If that’s happening, get professional help now.

1)  Don’t lie.

2)  Don’t call names.

3)  Don’t exaggerate.

4)  Don’t Deny you are  angry.

5)   Don’t compare with others.

6)  Don’t yell or try to overpower.

7)  Don’t blame the other for your offense.

8)  Don’t let your anger drive your actions.

9)  Don’t use old resolved issues as ammunition.

10) Don’t leave the conflict unresolved.  (It will come back to haunt you)

And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 for anger gives a foothold to the devil. Eph 4:26-27

Do you have good fights?  Can you think of other don’ts that will help make better fights?

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