People go into relationships thinking its a fifty-fifty deal.  Although that’s ideal, it doesn’t work that way.  Oh, there are definitely personal benefits that come from being in a relationships, whether it’s with friends or a spouse.  We are created to need to be in community with others. 

The problem is fifty-fifty can’t be your motive. 

If you can depend on God’s love to meet your needs, then you can be more other-centered in a relationship than self-centered.  That’s what real love is. (1 Cor 13:4-7)  It’s about giving more than taking. 

If you really want to turn a relationship around, Here is a list of ten ways to give into better relationships.

1)    Give others an impression of God.  Be God’s love with skin.  God loved us first so we can love others.

 No one has ever seen God. But if we love each other, God lives in us, and his love is brought to full expression in us.  1 John 4:12

 2)    Give others patience.  This is number one on the check list for love.  (Love is patient, kind …) 

The Lord is merciful and compassionate, slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love.  Ps. 145:8

 Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.  James 1:19

 3)    Give others kindness.  

 Kind words are like honey—sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.  Prov 26:24

They pretend to be kind, but don’t believe them.  Their hearts are full of many evils.  Prov 26:25

 4)    Give others humility.

 Pride ends in humiliation, while humility brings honor.  Prov 29:23

 5)    Give others courtesy.

 Love is not rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.  1 Cor 13:5

 So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.  Matt 7:12

 6)    Give others encouragement.

 Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works.  Heb 10:24

 7)    Give others a safe place.  (Trust, loyalty)

 They visit me as if they were my friends, but all the while they gather gossip, and when they leave, they spread it everywhere.  Ps. 41:6

 Many will say they are loyal friends, but who can find one who is truly reliable?  Pro 20:6

 8)    Give others confidence.

 We should help others do what is right and build them up in the Lord.  Rom 15:2

 9)    Give others success.

 Therefore I, a prisoner for serving the Lord, beg you to lead a life worthy of your calling, for you have been called by God.  Eph 4:1

 10)  Give others truth.

 As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.  Prov 27:17

 An honest answer is like a kiss of friendship.  Prov 24:26

Question:  How hard is it to give in a relationship when you feel you are not getting?