The biggest relationship weakness people have is that we see things from our own perspective.  I mean that’s natural. 

I learned from my own life and from counseling many couples that our perspective on ourselves, relationally,  is usually wrong.  We see ourselves through our eyes and our needs.  

What matters most in you having good relationships is not how you think you are doing as a boyfriend, wife, father, daughter, employer, employee, friend.  Its what the person on the other side of the relationship thinks about your relational abilities.

Humans are not usually honest about how we feel about the way we are treated by others until it gets to major conflict time.  Then there may already be some big time hurt and lost trust that is difficult to fix.

So… How good of a boyfriend, wife, husband, friend, employer do you think you are?  The is only one way to find out. 

Ask the other person.  Be open to honest criticism.  And if you don’t see it,  Get help.  Sit down with a counselor, someone who does not have anything at stake in your relationship and let that person look at both of your sides objectively and help you figure it out.

It works if you are willing to work it. 

Love prospers when a fault is forgiven,  but dwelling on it separates close friends. Prov 17:9

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