Tempted To Hate

Living The Jesus Creed #3 http://www.lifeconnectionchurch.org

The opposite of love is not hate. It’s apathy. (Not loving)
Love is learned and hate is learned.

Jesus said, “You have heard that our ancestors were told, ‘You must not murder. If you commit murder, you are subject to judgment.”
Matt 5:21

But I say …. If you are angry, call someone an idiot, or curse someone you are judged the same. Matt 5:22 (paraphrased)

One day an expert in religious law stood up to test Jesus by asking him this question: “Teacher, what should I do to inherit eternal life?”
Luke 10:25

LEAP – Listen – Engage – Apply – Produce

The man wanted to justify his actions, so he asked Jesus, “And who is my neighbor?” Luke 10:29

What Love Is. (Also see 1 Cor 13:4-8)
• Inconvenient
• Sacrificial
• Other Centered
• Commanded by God
• For all including your enemies

“You have heard the law that says, ‘Love your neighbor’ and hate your enemy. 44 But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you! Matt 5:43-44

• It changes the lives of those who receive it.

The Action That Is Love

1) Be aware of those in need.

Jesus replied with a story: “A Jewish man was traveling from Jerusalem down to Jericho, and he was attacked by bandits. They stripped him of his clothes, beat him up, and left him half dead beside the road.
31 “By chance a priest came along. But when he saw the man lying there, he crossed to the other side of the road and passed him by. 32 A Temple assistant walked over and looked at him lying there, but he also passed by on the other side.
33 “Then a despised Samaritan came along, and when he saw the man, he felt compassion for him. Luke 10:30-33

2) Take action even if it’s inconvenient.

Going over to him, the Samaritan soothed his wounds with olive oil and wine and bandaged them. Then he put the man on his own donkey and took him to an inn, where he took care of him. Luke 10:34

3) Don’t bail. Finish what you start.

The next day he handed the innkeeper two silver coins,[e] telling him, ‘Take care of this man. If his bill runs higher than this, I’ll pay you the next time I’m here.’ Luke 10:35

4) Be a neighbor to all.

“Now which of these three would you say was a neighbor to the man who was attacked by bandits?” Jesus asked.
37 The man replied, “The one who showed him mercy.”
Then Jesus said, “Yes, now go and do the same.”
Luke 10:36-37

To be obedient, who do you need to make your neighbor?

How To Know God Intimately

Living The Jesus Creed #2
Luke 11:1-13

Jesus simplified and clarified. Love God Love People

To really know God, value Him, spend time with Him, talk to Him, listen, and obey.

LEAP – Listen – Engage – Apply – Produce

O God, you are my God; I earnestly search for you. My soul thirsts for you; my whole body longs for you in this parched and weary land where there is no water. Ps 63:1

Pray in the Spirit at all times and on every occasion. Stay alert and be persistent in your prayers for all believers everywhere. Eph 6:18

“When you pray, don’t babble on and on as the Gentiles do. They think their prayers are answered merely by repeating their words again and again.” Matt 6:7

Jesus Said Talk To God Like This

1) Talk to Him as your heavenly Father and respect Him as your all-powerful God.

“Father, may your name be kept holy.” Luke 11:2

2) Seek to find God’s will and make it your will and live as
what happens on earth is connected to heaven

Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done, as in heaven, so in earth. Luke 11:2b KJV

May your Kingdom come soon. NLT

3) Ask for your daily needs. Talk to your Father about
everything. Stay connected. Practice thanking Him.

Give us each day the food we need Luke 11:3

4) Confess your disobedience. (Be in Agreement)

…and forgive us our sins, as we forgive those who sin against us.
Luke 11:4

5) Ask for help to stay out of trouble. Avoid temptation.

And don’t let us yield to temptation. Luke 11:4

Practice God’s presence…..

… they delight in the law of the LORD, meditating on it day and night. 3 They are like trees planted along the riverbank, bearing fruit each season. Their leaves never wither, and they prosper in all they do. Psalm 1:2-3

“Prayer is the central avenue God uses to transform us” …”In real prayer we begin to think God’s thoughts after Him”… Richard Foster

Five Things A Christian Should Know About Depression

Depression Talk #1 – Royal Farris

Depression Test

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One of the hardest things about depression for Christians is that its all about being sad. And we all know, right, that Christians are supposed to always be happy and full of joy.

Guess what? I have never met a Christian or anybody else on the planet who is always joyful. And I am pretty sure I have never met anyone who is never anxious.

Depression is a combination of nature and nurture. Its very complicated. And being depressed does not make you any less Christian than anyone else.

There are physical causes of depression. Just like getting other sicknesses. And the physically caused depression should be treated with medication and counseling.

Depression is tough because when you are depressed you think depressing thoughts and you spiral down.

There is no easy answer to getting better. Because of the complicated mix of nature and nurture the cure for some is easier than for others. But it is important to get help.

If you are a person of faith, don’t let depression make you abandon your faith. That is why its important to have a counselor that is a Christian. A non-believer will not understand and will likely try to make you at least put God on the back burner.

We will talk about treatments in another talk.
Anxiety is often a precursor to depression and there is a good chance you will have both at the same time.

Like depression anxiety is treated mentally, spiritually, and sometimes medically.

Christian friends and even your church may not help you the way you would hope or think.

People can get negative when they are depressed. Most people do not have much patience with negativity.

There are Christians, and even churches who look down on people for being depressed.

Depression and Anxiety are very treatable. And taking medicine is not a sin.

If you are depressed there is great hope you will get better and learn to handle tendencies to be depressed.

You can be sad or worried and not be clinically depressed or have an anxiety disorder.

In the next talk I will discuss the symptoms of depression.

This was talk one of depression. I hope it helped.

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Thanks and God Bless.

Grief Talk #2 – Why Is Grief So Doubly Confusing?

Grief Talk #2

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Royal Farris

When I am talking to someone early in her grief journey I explain to her that it is going to be not only painful, but confusing.

No One grieves the same. And just because someone else has grieved it does not mean they understand what you are going through.

And it will make you mad if someone tells you she knows how you feel.
She doesn’t.
But she really thinks she does.

You are angry because you feel your grieve is devalued because she thinks she knows and she is angry that you think she doesn’t know.

Whew … Pain and confusion. There are friendships and marriages that end during grief.

I warn her that friends don’t want you to grieve. It makes them uncomfortable. They want you to finish grieving and go back to who you were.

Some of your friends may overwhelm you with attention and you will want to be alone. Others will give their condolences, hang with you just a little, and then avoid you till they think you are better.

The grieving person will struggle with denial, depression, anger, fear, loneliness… When you think you are getting better it will come back with a vengeance on a holiday, with a memory, or just out of nowhere.

You will get better. You will get better. You will get better

You have to understand that others just don’t understand.
And you will never really understand ….

You will never be the same as you were before the loss.

There will always be an inner pain.

And here is the hard part.

You choose…… To live …. To live the best you can.
To go on. People survive and they even thrive.

It may not feel like that is possible now.

But it is ….

You will never forget ….
But the loss will have to move away from the center of your life where it holds you back to a place where you can actually gather strength from the memory.

Scriptures tell us that God is the God of all comfort. And God’s goal when He comforts you is to give you peace while making you stronger.

We will talk more about that in another session.

Let the healing begin.

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I will continue talking about grief on Friday’s post.

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Grief and Unfinished Business – Grief Talk #1

Grief Talk #1 Grief and Unfinished Business

A day or two before I officiate a funeral or memorial service I call a group meeting with as many of the close family members as we can get together.

I use that time together for two reasons. I gather information with which to write the eulogy. We talk about good memories. I ask questions like: If you could give on reason he was a great father, or husband … what would it be. What were his character strengths.

This walk down memory lane leads right into the second reason for the meeting. It kick starts the healing process. It is a debriefing time to start dealing with the grief.

For people who like to hold in their emotions, this might be the first time they shed a tear. It’s an opportunity to see each other hurting and encourage one another.

I point out that there are many different ways to grieve. While some show very little emotion, the emotions of others are all over the place so being patient with each other is important.

At this point it is very important for me, as the counselor, to listen for regrets. There seems to be more pain the regrets.

• I wish I had spent more time with him.
• The last time we talked I yelled at her.
• I never told him I was sorry.
• The last year I had just been so busy.
• I didn’t know she was in so much pain, or so sad, or lonely.
• The what ifs or what if I had not.
• I never should have.

There is always someone left behind who has some regrets.

• I tell them the slate has been wiped clean.
• I tell them heaven is a place where there is no pain
• There are no bad feelings.
• It’s a place of perfection
• There are no fears or doubts.
• Nothing you could have, should have, or did do on earth will mess up that perfection.
• It’s a place of pure love.
• More pure a love than he could ever even given or experienced while in his human state.

Not being able to let go of regrets can really intensify and prolong the grief as a person tries to make up for whatever he regrets.

If you are grieving now over the loss of a loved one and are hanging on to regrets. Let it go.

Let the healing begin.

I hope this helps. If you think this will help someone else, please pass it on.
I will continue talking about grief on next Wednesday’s post.

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Thanks for watching and God bless.

How To Have A Better Life?


Everyone wants a better life.  Have you chosen a path to trade up?

But to all who believed him and accepted him, he gave the right to become children of God. John 1:12

For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard. Rom 3:23

All religions require an earning of God’s favor. The problem is you never know if you have done enough.

Religion = Do               Christianity = Done

Jesus did it for us.

Christ suffered for our sins once for all time. He never sinned, but he died for sinners to bring you safely home to God. He suffered physical death, but he was raised to life in the Spirit. 1 Peter 3:18

Why Jesus? So we can have a better life.

  • It’s a new

…anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun! 1 Cor 5:17

2) It’s a life with a bigger purpose than you.

If you openly declare that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. 10 For it is by believing in your heart that you are made right with God, and it is by openly declaring your faith that you are saved. Rom 10:9-10

  • It’s a life of freedom through God’s grace.

Yes, the old requirement about the priesthood was set aside because it was weak and useless. 19 For the law never made anything perfect. But now we have confidence in a better hope, through which we draw near to God. Heb 7:18-19

  • It’s a life enriched by supernatural

And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Advocate, who will never leave you. 17 He is the Holy Spirit, who leads into all truth. The world cannot receive him, because it isn’t looking for him and doesn’t recognize him. But you know him, because he lives with you now and later will be in you. John 14:16-17

How Do I Trade Up?

  • Answer the calling to a new life.

I have come to call not those who think they are righteous, but those who know they are sinners and need to repent.” Luke 5:32

Just as everyone dies because we all belong to Adam, everyone who belongs to Christ will be given new life. 1 Cor 15:22

  • Choose to give God control of your life.

For this is how God loved the world: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16

He gave his life to purchase freedom for everyone.

This is the message God gave to the world at just the right time. 1 Tim 2:6

So now we can rejoice in our wonderful new relationship with God because our Lord Jesus Christ has made us friends of God. Rom 5:11

The choice is yours to make….

Have you had a B/C to A/D moment?