Taylor Swift ‘s song is so true. You have to let go of anger. You have to shake off the pain from other people.

This is part of September 28, 2014 teaching “Let Go of Anger It’s Killing You” http://youtu.be/UhbubFYCD04

Pastor Royal Farris

Source: Lyrics and video … http://www.metrolyrics.com/shake-it-off-lyrics-taylor-swift.html



Series: Emotions That Hold Back The Love #3

Source: Enemies of the Heart by Andy Stanley

If you are an angry person, it is killing you from the inside and blocking the love.

Anger is not a sin.  It’s what you do with anger that determines if it is a sin or not.

Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Eph 4:31

Most people justify or deny their anger.

  •  Blame it on others or events
  • Impossible to control
  • If I don’t yell or hit I am not angry.
  • I don’t get angry because I am spiritually mature.
  • I am just frustrated, not angry.

Most angry people need a second opinion other than their own.

Anger:  You owe me.  (someone owes me)

Anger destroys your heart and hurts innocent people.

Hurting people hurt people.

Angry people have to learn how to forgive.

Jesus said:  14 “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. 15 But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matt 6:14-15

Reasons people give for not forgiving:

  • It’s too hard
  • The offender needs to pay
  • I have forgiven (But not really)

How do you know if you haven’t? See Eph 4:31

Bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, slander, gossip, disrespect, sick feeling, hate, anxiety, depression, problem with relationships, …

Forgiving is cancelling the debt.

Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you. Eph 4:32

21 Then Peter came to him and asked, “Lord, how often should I forgive someone who sins against me? Seven times?

22 No, not seven times,” Jesus replied, “but seventy times seven! Matt 18:21-22

You, not the offender, pay  the consequence when you don’t forgive.

God forgives …..

 Then his master was filled with pity for him, and he released him and forgave his debt. Matt 18:27

When you don’t forgive the debt.

“But when the man left the king, he went to a fellow servant who owed him a few thousand dollars.  He grabbed him by the throat and demanded instant payment. Matt 18:28

Then the angry king sent the man to prison to be tortured until he had paid his entire debt Matt 18:34

Who do you need to release from debt?

Ambidextrous -Self Portrait

Ambidextrous -Self Portrait


The City of Euless has dropped our original house #7..  LCC is now on House #5.  If you already registered they moved you to 5.

Houses are filling up fast.  Go online today and register for one day or both days.  See below….

Community Powered Revitalization Oct 17-18… They have changed the sign up rules this year.  We cannot sign you up.  Go to 6 Stones Web Site to sign up.  Be sure to register for house #5 in Euless.  That’s the LCC house. You can register for Friday, Saturday or Both.   Sign up as soon as you can so we can all get on the same house.

Dear Friends and Family of LCC,


In Andy Stanley’s book Enemies of The Heart, he writes that the emotional enemies of our heart have a debt to debtor dynamic that causes personal and relational issues with God and people.

We saw last week that when struggling with guilt we have an “I owe you” attitude toward God and others.

This week we will be looking at anger.  The attitude of anger says “You Owe Me.”  Perhaps you have heard, “hurting people hurt people.”  Well angry hurting people believe they have something taken from them that has to be repaid.

Stanley writes, “Extremely angry people have already decided you won’t get it right before you even try.  They can’t let you get it right, otherwise they would lose their excuse to be angry.?”

Is that you?  Do you know someone who feels you owe them yet they won’t give you a chance to make it up?

Anger is not a sin.  It’s what you do with anger that determines if it is a sin or not.  Hanging on to anger is a sin. And it’s killing you and your relationship with God and people.

We all need this message, and we all have friends that need it.

I hope to see you Sunday and be sure to bring a friend.

God bless from your brotha from anotha motha



Source: Enemies of the Heart by Andy Stanley

The freedom to love God and love people is blocked by the emotions of guilt, anger, greed, and jealousy.

There are only two ways to resolve this tension:

  • Someone has to pay up
  • Someone has to cancel the debt

Your relationship with God and your relationship with people are linked.

I owe God.  It’s I debt I cannot pay.

22 We are made right with God by placing our faith in Jesus Christ. And this is true for everyone who believes, no matter who we are.

23 For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard. 24 Yet God freely and graciously declares that we are righteous. He did this through Christ Jesus when he freed us from the penalty for our sins. Rom 3:22-24

God paid with Jesus and cancelled the debt.

I owe people.

 23 “So if you are presenting a sacrifice at the altar in the Temple and you suddenly remember that someone has something against you, 24 leave your sacrifice there at the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God. Matt 5:23-24

I owe God because I owe people.

If we claim we have no sin, we are only fooling ourselves and not living in the truth.  But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness. 1 john 1:8-9

We are to confess to God and the offended party.

Biblical Confession is not just saying “I am sorry”.

Confession is not about conscience relief.

Confession is just one step in a sequence of steps that leads the guilty out of darkness and into the light; it’s simply the beginning of a process that ultimately leads to change in lifestyle or behavior.  ~ Andy Stanley



  • Repentance

 …“Everyone who confesses the name of the Lord must turn away from wickedness.” 2 Tim 2:19

 “Yes, it was written long ago that the Messiah would suffer and die and rise from the dead on the third day.47 It was also written that this message would be proclaimed in the authority of his name to all the nations,[f] beginning in Jerusalem: ‘There is forgiveness of sins for all who repent.’ Luke 24:46-47


  • Restitution

 Meanwhile, Zacchaeus stood before the Lord and said, “I will give half my wealth to the poor, Lord, and if I have cheated people on their taxes, I will give them back four times as much!” Luke 19:8


  • Restoration


Confession will break the cycle of sin

Confession will dissolve the guilt.

Logo_ontransparent convertedAt one time we thought of Christ merely from a human point of view. How differently we know him now! 17 This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!  2 Cor 5:16-17

We are made new through a spiritual birth.

Change is a growth process.

Keep watch and pray, so that you will not give in to temptation. For the spirit is willing, but the body is weak!”  Matt 26:41

We are in a spiritual battle.


11 Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil. 12 For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places. Eph 6:12

We try to look and act right on the outside, but the problem is with the heart.  (nature)

Oh, what a miserable person I am!  Who will free me from this life that is dominated by sin and death?  Thank God! The answer is in Jesus Christ our Lord. So you see how it is: In my mind I really want to obey God’s law, but because of my sinful nature I am a slave to sin.  Rom 7:24-25

Source: Enemies of the Heart by Andy Stanley

The freedom to love God and love people is blocked by feelings of

  • Guilt I owe you.
  • Anger You owe me.
  • Greed I owe me.
  • Jealousy God owes me.

Each emotion has a debt to debtor dynamic that causes an imbalance in relationships.

There are only two ways to resolve this tension:

  • Someone has to pay up
  • Someone has to cancel the debt

It’s difficult to self diagnose the problems of the heart.

 “The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is? Jer 17:9

We are taught to monitor our behavior.

God says our behavior comes from our heart.

 Jesus said, For from the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, all sexual immorality, theft, lying, and slander. Matt 15:19

Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life. Prov 4:23

How do we heal and protect the heart? …..

 Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. Phil 4:7

If we grow the love … We will change and we will change the world.



God Where Are You?

14-09-07 God where are you fbtl


Psalms 42-43

Jesus replied, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. Matt 22:36

Why?   He is the source of Life.

Jesus said, “My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life.” John 10:10

God is always there, but we are not.


  • We thirst for God. We cannot really live on just air, water, and food.

As the deer longs for streams of water, so I long for you, O God.   I thirst for God, the living God.  When can I go and stand before him?

Day and night I have only tears for food, while my enemies continually taunt me, saying, “Where is this God of yours?”

My heart is breaking as I remember how it used to be: I walked among the crowds of worshipers, leading a great procession to the house of God, singing for joy and giving thanks amid the sound of a great celebration!

Why am I discouraged?  Why is my heart so sad?We have to own our responsibility for the disconnect.

5b… I will put my hope in God!  I will praise him again—my Savior and my God!


Remember our relationship with God. Not what God did but the relationship.

6 Now I am deeply discouraged,

but I will remember you—even from distant Mount Hermon, the source of the Jordan, from the land of Mount Mizar.
I hear the tumult of the raging seas as your waves and surging tides sweep over me.  But each day the Lord pours his unfailing love upon me, and through each night I sing his songs,  praying to God who gives me life.

“O God my rock,” I cry, “Why have you forgotten me? Why must I wander around in grief, oppressed by my enemies?”  10 Their taunts break my bones.  They scoff, “Where is this God of yours?”  11 Why am I discouraged?  Why is my heart so sad?
I will put my hope in God!  I will praise him again—my Savior and my God!

If they then say, ‘Come, let us worship other gods’—gods you have not known before— do not listen to them. The Lord your God is testing you to see if you truly love him with all your heart and soul.  Deut 13:2-3


  • I will put my trust in God.

Psalm 43

Declare me innocent, O God!  Defend me against these ungodly people. Rescue me from these unjust liars.  For you are God, my only safe haven.  Why have you tossed me aside?
Why must I wander around in grief, oppressed by my enemies?
Send out your light and your truth;  let them guide me.  Let them lead me to your holy mountain, to the place where you live.

There I will go to the altar of God, to God—the source of all my joy.  I will praise you with my harp, O God, my God!  Why am I discouraged?  Why is my heart so sad?

5b I will put my hope in God!  I will praise him again—my Savior and my God!

E - RoyalDear Friends and Family of LCC,

Lisa and I are back from our vacation. We celebrated our 35th Anniversary on a ship in the Caribbean. Thanks so much to Joy and a large group of LCCers who made Sundays awesome while we were gone. Thanks to our guest worship leader Brad Riley and our guest speakers Mitch Tidwell and my good friend Billy Taylor for making making it easy for Lisa and me to relax.

Speaking of Joy. Congratulations to she and Kevin . They delivered baby son Kasen the day before yesterday. He is a healthy boy weighing in at 6 lbs 15 oz. Joy will be on a Six Week leave and I am very thankful for the volunteers who will be stepping up and taking on extra responsibilities to keep the ministries running smoothly.

Do you recognize this popular verse?

As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, my God. Ps 42:1 NIV

While on the cruise I got up early every morning and took a window seat in the dining room and spent fifteen to thirty minutes meditating on Psalms 42-43. I am not sure how this passage became two different Psalms. They were obviously originally one. What a powerful psalm this is.

If you have been a Christian for any time at all you know what it is like when you get distracted by life and lose your connection with God. You feel the void for sure and your soul starts crying out for the reconnection. That’s that this passage is all about.

On Sunday I will be teaching a message I mostly wrote during my quiet times on the boat. I am calling this message, “God, Where Are You?”

Do you feel disconnected sometimes? Do you feel disconnected now? We are going to look at what it’s like to be disconnected from God and how to reconnect on Sunday.

If you are an LCCer who has not been to church in awhile, come back on Sunday. If you do not have a church home, please be our guest. And if you are an LCCer, I hope to see you Sunday.

I am so looking forward to teaching the Word of God on Sunday and we will be having communion.

See you Sunday.


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